there’d be no sprout if this had been planned

Tim and I are planners. Type A, anal, neat freaks who like everything to be just so.

We have checklists for everything.

We walk through every single detail of a trip or an outing….except when it comes to going on hikes…or finding somewhere to eat in a new place…but those are two entirely different stories…we’re flawed, people, and we aren’t afraid to admit it.

*However* we organize under our cabinets and sinks and like nice, neat little rows of cleaning supplies. Our garage is spotless. Everything has a place.

We shower. Daily.

We already have a folder for our 2012 taxes.

You get the point, right?

So, imagine how much our brains exploded when we started talking about the potential of having children. It wasn’t pretty.

Back when the conversation first came to light, we were still living in Georgia in the neighborhood that hated us.

I didn’t want to have kids growing up there.

No way in hell.

I was adamant that we would have to move first before any kind of procreation took place. So, Tim and I looked to move locally.

We couldn’t find a location suitable to either of us without making one person drive a ridiculous way to and from work every day.

(insert idea spiraling downward, totally out of control)

Then, Tim started looking for jobs elsewhere. As in not in Georgia.

Funny thing happened a few months…or maybe it was a year…it’s all fuzzy at this point…anyway, Tim ended up getting a job offer at a tee-tiny company based in New England. Except, we wouldn’t get to move to New England.

We had to move to some podunk town in New York that looked freakishly scary on google maps. Seriously, this place…utter desolation…and not in the good way. More like a nuclear bomb went off kind of way.

Long story short, Tim turned down the job.

Another job opportunity didn’t surface for YEARS after that. Tim and I both got promotions at our jobs before he received another offer, if that tells you anything.

Enter most recent job offer that landed us in Colorado.

NOW we could talk about having kids, again. What kid wouldn’t want to grow up in Colorado? What first time parent wouldn’t want to have a kid in Colorado?

Exactly.

It was perfect.

Except…it wasn’t.

Colorado is just a springboard to another job for Tim, so we won’t be here for long. By “long” I mean we could potentially be moving next year. We have no idea when it will happen or where we’ll end up. All we know is that WE’RE MOVING.

(I know I’ve said that before…probably more times than you care to hear…you’ll have to excuse my repeating myself. I can’t even remember the things I say anymore…besides, it has to be said because it makes the story FLOW, you see…)

So….woudn’t it make sense to wait it out…NOT have a child until this second move took place? That seemed more logical…maybe we should wait…maybe just a few more years…you see where this is going, don’t you?

Except, somewhere around eight or so months ago, during a dinner at an Italian restaurant where I’d had one too many glasses of wine, I told Tim, “Yes. Absolutely! I’m ready. Let’s try to have kids.”

What I meant was that I wanted to get down to my goal weight and cut out all kinds of food before we started trying.

What Tim heard was, “Let’s get it on!

Obviously, the latter happened.

There really is no self control with wine.

Then, a few weeks later I get the three big fat positives on three different brands of pregnancy tests.

And here we are.

Baby sprout on the way.

Tim and I are both convinced that if that conversation had never happened and the (earmuffs, family) condomless weekend never occurred and the sperm had not found the egg on the first shot, literally, baby sprout wouldn’t have…happened. Probably ever. We would have always come up with some reason or excuse or something as to why we should WAIT.

I know everyone says there is never a perfect time to have a child, but Tim and I would have tried like hell to find one.

Whether we ever did or not is debatable. Obviously.

There is no moral to the story other than to say: If you say you’re ready to have kids, you better be absolutely positive you’re ready RIGHT NOW.

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13 Responses to “there’d be no sprout if this had been planned”


  1. 1 Brandy January 17, 2012 at 11:02 am

    Any chance sprout will be messy and disorganized? Only “28” more days! We are so excited!

  2. 3 Anne January 17, 2012 at 11:36 am

    You and Tim approached the situation very similarly to how Tyler and I do. Except we haven’t had that infamous wine dinner – yet ; ). I loved the way you ended this, though – “If you say you’re ready to have kids, you better be absolutely positive you’re ready RIGHT NOW.”

    I think in the back of my mind I must know this or else I wouldn’t be so careful to always say, “I’m -almost- ready to have a baby.” I never quite commit ; )

    To continue this massive comment – you are SO CLOSE to transitioning from being pregnant to being a real, live, mommy! Whoa.

  3. 5 Shannon January 17, 2012 at 11:37 am

    Oh man Hardscape and I have gone in rounds about when the best time to start is. I have to plan and plan and he is all about “lets do it!” I have a feeling we will be in the same boat as you one night. He’ll completely take advantage of me while I’m drunk. πŸ™‚ There really never is a good time though, obviously it was meant to happen.

    • 6 Jessica January 17, 2012 at 1:26 pm

      I totally agree – it was definitely meant to be – even though I would have never thought it would have happened this way….

      I’m sure Hardscape will absolutely take advantage. That’s what *they* do… πŸ˜‰ (I mean that in a nice way)

  4. 7 jobo January 17, 2012 at 12:07 pm

    See, I am a planner too and having unplanned baby would freak the shit out of me too! But look at you! You are doing it! So that means…if it ever happens to me that way, then it’s meant to be πŸ˜‰

    • 8 Jessica January 17, 2012 at 1:27 pm

      Exactly! And seriously…I’ll be your biggest supporter because I KNOW how difficult it is for a Type A to be thrown into a situation completely unplanned and unprepared!

  5. 9 Michelle Kreifels January 17, 2012 at 1:05 pm

    I have to see a fertility specialist when that time comes around so I will have to be absolutely positively sure. Otherwise, like the rest of my family, the ‘future-kid’ would not be planned. As someone who has a type ‘A’ personality, I’m liking that I get to somewhat plan for the future kid.

    @ Brandy: Wouldn’t that be something?

    • 10 Jessica January 17, 2012 at 1:28 pm

      In the beginning, I wished I had had that luxury to “plan” but now I’m just trying…as best I can…to go with the flow.

      (and no…it would not be something to have the sprout be this little terror of a mess…OMG. The horror! πŸ™‚ )

  6. 11 Angelia Sims January 18, 2012 at 2:13 am

    I can’t imagine anyone being ready, nor prepared, but it is a nice thought.

    πŸ™‚


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