Comments on: i’m starting to think i’m a bad listener

By: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 00:47:29 +0000

Daphne: Wow – that definitely would make me feel AWFUL…but certainly is a lesson not to forget…

You’re so right about what good listening is supposed to be – giving 100% of your time and attention to what they’re saying at that moment.

By: Daphne

Daphne — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 13:59:16 +0000

I’ve been working on listening, too. I definitely have an internal monologue going in my head most of the time. I’m listening to myself more, and trying to catch myself before I interject myself into something Donald is telling me.

The turning point was when Donald was sharing some very personal insights and thoughts and I rocketed into the conversation, turned it into something about me and my own experiences, and completely shut him down. When I stopped and realized what I had done, I was so embarassed.

Listening is about showing the other person that your conversation with them is the most important thing you could be doing at that moment.

By: the answers…don’t you want them? « booshy

the answers…don’t you want them? « booshy — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 16:44:10 +0000

[...] – cause I’m trying to get better at the whole listening thing – I’m all, WHAT? [...]

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 20:14:18 +0000

Brooke: I could never be a hairstylist…I’m not good at the “small talk” ….plus I have a hard enough time doing my own hair….

When’s the big date, anyway? How’s the planning going?

By: Brooke

Brooke — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 18:32:10 +0000

I’m the same way. I feel like I pretty much know what my fiance is going to say, before he says it. He might feel like I’m not listening sometimes, but I feel like he repeats himself a lot So, I guess it is even! On another note, I’m pretty sure hairstylists have the best gossip.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 12:07:48 +0000

Mindy: I never really thought of it that way – but I think you may very well have a great point. One I’m going to have to remember as the marriage years tick by.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 11:48:16 +0000

Buckeroomama: that’s a good point. Hubby is half the reason we have the home we do…without him (for me, anyway) – life would be very boring.

By: Mindy

Mindy — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 06:22:31 +0000

Nah…listening is way overrated. In fact, I’m quite sure that if I listened to EVERYTHING that my husband said we’d be divorced by now. I think tuning out is probably what has made my marriage so successful. =)
Mindy
http://www.thesuburbanlife.com

By: Buckeroomama

Buckeroomama — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 02:52:56 +0000

My FIL (!) always, always gives me this advice: My life should not be all about the children and running the house… that I should make time for the hubby, too.

Sometimes it is all too easy to get too wrapped up in the children and in the running of the house that we take hubby for granted.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 00:31:16 +0000

Heather: (nice to see you!! How are things? )

And – you’re right. Sometimes I’ll be like, “don’t you REMEMBER?! I just told you…” and he’s got no idea. But, I certainly don’t want him to start going somewhere else for conversation because I get too caught up in my own brain. I’m working on it, though.